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Are You in an Abusive Relationship?

No-one wants to think that they are in an abusive relationship, and quite often people don't realize that their partner is being abusive -- they just accept the behavior as being normal for their partner. To the outside world they make excuses about their partner being overworked, financial problems, not feeling themselves, and to themselves they feel hurt by their partner's actions but by the time they realize that this behavior is a constant pattern, they have begun to believe that their partner is right! For most people, if they aren't being physically abused, then they aren't in an abusive relationship, but this is not the case.

One of the most common forms of abuse is control. Your partner insists that everything is their way. They say where you go, what you where, who you talk to, who you don't socialize with, even down to how you stack dishes or fold laundry. Do they control the money and make you account for everything you spend? This isn't because they can do it better, it's because if you do what they say, then they have control over you and the relationship. People who find themselves in this kind of situation often go along with the demands of their partner simply to keep the peace. Failure to meet the standards of the controlling partner can incur more physical or emotional abuse which is more difficult to deal with than simply making sue that the glass tumblers are placed upside down on the shelf! If you find that your partner does have a tendency to always have to be right and have things done his way, you need to accept that it isn't just a quirky part of their nature, it's a form of abuse and you need to do something about it.

If your partner constantly criticizes you, in public and/or in private, this is abuse, even if it is said in a joking manner. In a relationship you have a right to expect that your partner will support you. That doesn't mean to say that they have to agree with everything you say, or do, or look, but it does mean that they don't judge you either when you're alone, and never when you are with other people. A relationship is about love, and love is unconditional. If it comes with strings attached, it's not the real deal and you need to get out of the relationship before your self-esteem is damaged.

Is your partner unfaithful, or do they constantly refer to the fact that you are unfaithful and flirty in your interaction with others? This is a form of abuse. Do they often physical abuse towards you or anyone else in your home--even if they don't follow through--this is a form of abuse. Do they constantly blame you for what goes wrong in their lives? This is abuse.

These and many others are signs that you have a problem in your relationship that needs resolved, or you need to move out of it before it changes you. Some of these may be things that happen very seldom, others may be a constant part of your everyday life-- if they are constant, you need to act now. If the instances are seldom and don't affect you too much, then monitor the situation and be prepared to act if the regularity increases. No-one in a relationship deserves to be abused, so if you're in that position, love yourself enough to move out of it and find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve.

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Jane Saeman runs a site called www.Hot-Firefighters.com along with info on dating and relationships on her blog at www.Hot-Firefighters.com/blog2

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